I think as the years go by we tend to take our Ss for granted, that we forget they are individuals with goals and dreams and we tend to dehumanizing them and expect them to be like pawns in a game, "he is supposed to do such and such" etc.
I think trying to be friends is a good start, to have each partner have a hobby/passtime away from the S so they can remember who they are as individuals.
Life is too short to live unhappy, I pray all your hard effords pay off and that you find yourself again and so can he.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
