you are absolutely right. Intimacy can be uncomfortable for some people. It can be downright terrifying for others. Schnarch addresses this in "Passionate Marriage".
Quote: sometimes communication will do nothing more than point out opposite points of view.
Right again. Talking doesn't always get the point acrossed.
Quote: all that ails a relationship
Do you have any ideas outside of increasing intimacy and more effective communication?
I don't mind the sun sometime
The images it shows
I can taste you on my lips
And smell you in my clothes
Cinnamon and Sugar
And softly spoken lies
You never know just how you look
Through someone elses eyes
BHS-"Pepper"