Sometimes early in a R, issues don't come to the surface because people haven't established the level of trust that enables them to really be ALL of themselves. Sometimes when problems surface down the road, it's not a bad sign, it's actually a good sign, because it means the person now feels safe enough to let some of the skeletons out of the closet. Alas, that is one of the glories, as well as one of the perils of a truly deep, intimate R-- you get to see the pain that your partner has kept hidden in his/her heart from everyone else.
