Just catching up on your sitch. You sound like you are doing magnificent!!! You seem to making great progress for yourself and in the process continue to bring your H closer to you in the M.
One thing I have thought about - your H seems to always need reassurance that you love him. Just my 2 cents, but it seems like maybe since he has PA with someone else - he is afraid (especially since you have continued to improve yourself) you don't love him or will find someone else. He seems insecure and unsure of himself. Again - really points towards the idea of lack of self-esteem. This is somethign that seems to plague most WASs and those that have EA/PAs. Just a thought.
You keep doing what you are doing. Keep being beautiful you. And yes - you do have the patience of a saint!