We have been reconciled for 3 months now and now it seems old patterns want to emerge,, I see that when he makes me feel toooooooooooooo much I want to retreat.
.. instead of move forward like I used to when I was in full db mode,,, this is not good.I must keep working on this and remember it will not happen overnite. I fel scared but must continue to move forward for my myself and for this M to survive.
Ooooh I know that feeling of wanting to retreat. I've gone through it before too. It's probably okay to allow a little in, but to try also and make reaching out and communicating more natural and automatic. The trick is to make the helpful stuff a habit...
Yes, easier said than done! Hang in there!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
