Sounds good Ali. It's weird, and Frank touched on it a bit on his thread; sometimes detaching is a bad thing once you get to a certain point in a sitch. I don't think you are there yet and while I think you CANNOT allow the abuse to continue, I also think one of the tools you can use to further that goal is to detach from worring about him or his state of mind. It's up to him to manage his anger and aggression, not you. It's up to you to manage YOUR happiness and thus not sweat the small stuff, his or otherwise (lol).
You sound great and I look forward to reading more about your newfound voice!
There will come a time when you can more safely "attach" but for now, pave your own path Ali.
