From what I've been told xanex or xanex-like meds should not be used regularly because they are addictive (they are only appropriate for rare times of high stress).

But antidepressants, even at a low-dose, can help keep a person more even-tempered and reduce wild swings of emotion. Also they don't have that same risk of being highly addictive.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.