Your husband sounds extremely tense. I could be wrong here, but he sounds like someone who might need medication to calm down.

I know you love him and want to help him, but the words he's calling you are abusive. That's verbal abuse and it's just as damaging as physical abuse.

Maybe you should look for some books about this, find out why this happens and how to deal with it. Since you want to make your marriage work and this is not a healthy situation, I think you should probably read about it, methods of treating it, etc...


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