So, for example, I'm wondering if it might make your H feel good if, after saying he "had to go" when busy at work in a really nice way, if you would say "H, in the past I would feel hurt when you would seem so annoyed with me when you had to go- I completely understand sometimes you are too busy with work to talk- and it means so much to me when you tell me so in such a kind, gentle manner. I love you, you big stud." I guess what I mean is that in addition to being gently assertive in letting him know what things hurt you- that is just as important to provide plenty of positive reinforcement everytime he does something right.

I love that you took the time to post your advice and thoughts....

what I put in Quote ...

I have done..... the first time he apologized for cutting me off I replied " you know what honey I totally understand you are busy and thank you so much for apologizing but it is not necessary ,I know you are busy at work..."

I do the things you say but I guess I will have to post that more too,, I thought I was too mushy and I do sometimes leave that out so I will remember to post that
more...

I value your opinion and I thank you for taking time out of your day to support me,, and yes I validate him alot everyday I wake up and I think what can I do to make my Marriage better today I really do....


as far as the kitchen sink thing I tend to be very laid back and not say much but when something presents itself I talk to him about it.
.... but yes I agree bombarding him with too much is not good and I do not do that!!!


.....in the past I was guilty of the kitchen sinking but now I choose my battles and choose them very wisely and I am assertive not nagging or b*tchy....
YEAH ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ant time I talk to him it is in a calm serene very sweet voice.... and I do it with respect for him and myself.

The issue I spoke to him of was :

of one of his employees we recently found out was not being so good in his daily life and he was using my H truck and I did not want my H later to have problems so normally I would have stayed quiet about this but I feel like I need to protect him from getting into problems he is not creating..

So it was not something he perse was doing wrong,, it was something he was oblivious to and I felt he needed to know..

Thank you again and I look forward to hearing from you more.. Thanks for reminding me and telling me how to show him more love,, I will not forget your advice,,,,,
God bless...