BTW, Ali, I think I need to read up on your sitch because even though I don't share the cheating part with your H, I do have anger issues like your H and really fight (bad word to use I guess) to quell my feelings of frustration and anger. This has been going on basically since the kids were born and I can assure you, probably like your H, I HATE myself when I act angry toward my wife or kids but something in me, especially when I am tired or frustrated at something else in life just snaps and I lash out. I'm never physical with anyone but my "verbal abuse" as you call it is not good.
Hopefully I can learn from you and your sitch as well as from what I read and my C.
