As for the tattoo issue, I don't think I could cope with that reminder.
I know it feels degrading to see it especially when we are making love or he wants me to snuggle with him.... It feels like she is in bed with me. YUCK....
Yeah sure he has long forgotten it but I have to look at it... EVERYDAY...... I do not enjoy this.
I agree that if he does not let this anger stuff go we will be in the same boat in 5 years this is why I am so adimate about him growing.... I do keep him on his toes ( ever so gently cause believe it or not he is so much more fragile than me)in a way I never knew how to before and have gotten him to grow but I wish he would step back and look at how what he does affects others. Well me in particular.
WE never had a formal this is what I need and this is what you need type of talk. But we do get into talks about our R weekly and I will admit he has grown some but that is my fear that he will get to be as ugly ( personality wise ) as he used to be and I will go into my cave again. I do not want this to happen and I doubt he does,, he is extremely needy with me and even more so now than in the past...

Why is he so needy with my love without admitting it and yet sometimes so cruel...
I will work on this gently in the next few weeks ... ( 9 weeks into reconciliation and I love where we are but I do want to see it grow into something more Beautiful.)

One day I hope to report that he is absolutely there and he gets it that it is not all about "HIM" that It is ok to be at peace and not going at 100 miles per hour everyday, sometimes I see that he can genuinely relax but he brings work home too much and b/c he is SELF EMPLOYED he doesnt seem to get away from it ever. Most of his out bursts are in regards to the job and money and what I forgot to do for him/his business and he takes it personal. Would he talk to a Secretary this way when he was having a bad day I doubt it he is far too ploite with others to ever dream of acting this way with anyone but me.
Thanks Lizemba you always make me think and thats is what I love about you...
God bless...