GEL and dwh:

Whoa! That was one smokin' reply, GEL!

I think that would have worked maybe a couple of years ago. I tried something similar last year and he told me to stop. Trust me, it took all my courage to do it, so I don't want to be going there again any time soon. Right now, I'm not just dealing with sexual issues, I'm also dealing with other R issues (mind you, I don't know what they are b/c there's no R-talk going on). I don't think H is at the point of being comfortable with me right now. Or at least, comfortable enough for sex.

I have spoken to DB coach Laurie about how to add PT to our R, because that is my #1 LL, and by far. His is QT. Interestingly, he told me shortly after he moved out that he was in therapy and thought he had a sex addiction.

Last night, he was here for dinner, and I gave him a quick hug with the kids, and also rubbed his back. He didn't try to get away, but certainly didn't reciprocate. Honestly, I am at a loss here. *sigh* I think maybe we just need more time to heal the rest of our R before we get to sex. But it was so important to him at one time, that he claimed it was a big reason he left! Interesting, b/c he kept turning me down, plus he had some, uh, sexual problems at that time, as I found out later. In essence, nobody could satisfy him.

Anyway, I think I'm starting to ramble here, so I'd better finish up.

Thanks for your input,
Nicola

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