Being as I'm an HD woman to begin with...yes I would continue this behavior LOL. However in all seriousness...I would recommend an LD woman continue the behavior as well to foster intimacy between her and her H. In Nicola's sitch I would suggest she continue it as well to show that her desire for her H is sincere and genuine.
Throwing someone off kilter to get them out of their protective comfort zone is sometimes necessary so that they will not have time to think...and merely respond instead...or sit there wide-eyed with mouth agape (like my H). If we have time to think...we have time to remember pain and then the barrier goes up.
