There's no "magic" answer. You will have to display a more affectionate and sexual attitude toward him, and initiate frequently, and do it consistently over a period of time. Once your husband realizes that your desire for him is genuine, and permanent, he might let his guard down. It's going to take time, I'm afraid.
I know this isn't my thread--sorry dwh--but I find this very interesting.
I don't know if this could apply to anyone else, but my dilemma is that H is so scared of getting reattached to me (from what I gather) that he barely ever touches me at all. However, since sex was such a big issue in our M, I know that if he doesn't feel desired by me, we don't have a chance for reconciliation. I've been touching him a bit when I see him (on the arm, leg, etc), but very casually. Sometimes I make suggestive remarks, but they just seem to slide off him.
I guess my question is this: how do you show your partner that they are desirable w/o scaring them off? If dwh's H won't let her touch him, is it wise to push it?
Nic
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