Today my W called and asked that we formally/legally become separated. She is sending me some paperwork (again) and says she is wants a legal agreement this time. She says she doesn't want to fight over things (as long as I just sign the house over to her) and that WE split/pay off the home improvement loan WE got so I could remodel 2 bathrooms and add her home office onto the house. Not to mention all the vacation days used to build/remodel and the blood and sweat that went into it.
She did tell me that she wants to refinance the house in her name only and has inquired about a new loan. I also only have to get her name off my truck loan (which we will not split/pay off) - BTW it's just about paid for and she has a company car. I get to keep all of my tools - how 'bout that. There's no way I'm just signing over the house and furniture.
She wants to take the separation agreement worksheet to the local military JAG office (becasue it's free and they do everything for you). I think I will let her do it that way, but hire my own attorney to review it with me and recommend changes. I would rather pay somebody for advice now, than to pay them more later to fix it.
I think she was a bit surprised that I was prepared to talk about it and that I didn't get emotional. It sounded as if she was on the verge of crying the whole time.
One interesting thing was that she wanted the date of separation to be last OCT - since in NC once you're legally separated for a year you can file for the big D. Whatever, I'm not going to get in the way/try to stop her from going down this road - but she's gonna be the one doing the work
