H almost moved out back in July, was infatuated w/a coworker, wrote letters he never sent. She doesn't know and (having been around them together) really doesn't have those feelings for him.
H and I are in MC and have been since July. He moved out of our bedroom in late July, asked to move back in at the beginning of September. Our R is a lot better, though no ILY yet. H is talking about long term plans.
So, is it time to move here? What do I need to know about this phase?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
1Do not rush him into saying ILY, you can say it, just dont' expect him to say it back just yet. Back to basics, remember you have to begin again to be his friend.Enjoy everyday and make him feel important, respected. Work on yourself, remember that a happy you will project positively on him.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I made my first post over here in piecing back in April. Didn't hear ILY until mid August. Don't use that as a benchmark - I'm sure every time is different.
Note however I did NOT say it first. I wasn't going to affirm how I felt until WAW did first. What I did however is to try and make myself lovable. That is the spirit of GAL - transforming (or reforming) yourself into that person that our WAS's fell in love with. Make the changes permanent and the ILY's will come.
Glad you are in MC - hope that is working. It sounds to me like you H is certainly heading in the direction....keep posting!
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
