That quote is a good one to remember. Fortunately things are getting better although ironically I'm starting to have some of the "sex" problems people talk about. Lately I've started to worry that maybe she was "better" or "more exciting." It's funny because I'm always telling others to let go, have fun and be better than OP, and I'm now struggling with the whole thing.
Having only been with one person for over 20 years I'm wondering just how ignorant I am. What is "good?" How does a person know if they are "good" at this? Can it be so great being with the same person so long? I would think it must have been so great with this OP. Sure, I'm the mother of his kids and I've always "been here," and there is this strong connection of kids, family and having been together for so many years... but maybe I'm more like HIS mother.
I know I'm writing kind of negative, but things overall are good. I'm not talking about OW and we're being friends. Even though I might be distancing I still hug him a lot and tell him I love him (I'm a very "touchy feely hug-alot" person). But I have expressed my insecurities in the physical intimacy area and I know this bothers him.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
