Well, yeah, it is...but I think that is a common MLC regret...everyone wishes they'd done things differently, yada yada.
My W admitted a few weeks ago when we last discussed this garbage that she really had emotionally abandoned our kids. She kept saying that she justified the A because she and I fought too much and I was too angry all the time (gee...reckon why?) and that divorcing me was important to "save the kids" LOL.
So I said, well things have been the same between us for 6 years now, so if I was really as horrible as you say I am, why did you let them suffer all this time? I mean, by the time you got around to divorcing me, our oldest would be in college and the younger would be driving.
So she admitted that it was really all about her...that was just an excuse, a lie she told herself which meant, basically, that "well at least I wouldn't be miserable anymore." Heh.
It really is alien thinking. I think they eventually come back to earth, gradually, slowly, and it just feels wierd to them when they snap out of it...kind of like suddenly being in thinner atmosphere or something. The world looks the same, but feels different.
I think re-entry is a huge problem for them to overcome. When the aliens return them from the mothership, that is...
Truth is, I think my W is, unfortunately, one hugely self-centered and selfish individual who goes for any port in the storm when the water gets a little choppy (to get us back on our nautical metaphors, root ).
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
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