"Officially" piecing... now the real work begins..

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it is true, the men on piecing seem to recover better than us, and also as someone pointed out, there are more women here than men, meaning women do loose themselves more emotionally and fewer come back.

he didn't seem to care that she was married...
...and where his moral compass points

For one, no, they didnt' care if the op was married, betrothed or anything, he just clicked w/her running, if a single gal had been there at the right time he would've gone w/her.

Now, about the moral compass, that is something that does bother me too. Since my H's been back he thinks all people have a good potential to be scum bags, that no one is to be trusted. He sunk so low and he used to be such a shy, sweet innocent guy. Because of scummy ow he says he isnt' the "touchy-feely" kind of guy anymore, he sort of dropped the you-dont-own-me chip off his shoulder (verbatum dogma courtesy of ow) but he still is very guarded of others. Maybe w/time and when our Ms becomes stronger those wrong perceptions will change.

My H still won't come to church w/us, I'm not pushing the subject but it does sadden me to no end, I married him knowing he loved God above all, that was the main reason I choose him, so for now I just lift in prayer every night and day.

Anyways, my point was running, that your H involving himself w/ a married woman was as bad as involving himself w/a single one.We have two kids, he didn't care. I actually found a note (he'd write lots of things to make sure he'd say the "rigth" stuff to her) that said he wished he didn't have kids, isnt' that awful? most likey because ow didnt' want them and they were a responsability-- he made himself agree/like the beliefs she embraced, he wanted to be on the same pg w/her.