Yeah I get pretty much the same tune from my W. I asked her point blank what OM did for her that I don't do and she says, "Nothing. You're great. It's just that I got to where I hated you cause you were hurtful and he was nice and kind and sweet to me."

I personally believe she feels like she owes him for that. Maybe she rationally knows she doesn't, but I think she feels a sense of obligation toward him. I mean, OM divorced his wife, bought a new house, took an extra job, all this stuff for he and my W...and then we moved, she cut off all contact with him, and there you have it. So I think in addition to the general guilt over her failures, she has guilt over all that as well.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'