I first read about exit affairs in one of my books. It may even be in DB??? I need to do some re-reading. Some books talk about types of affairs and give examples of different ones.
What's going on with your husband's affair? Is he still in it? Are you separated or in divorce?
It's good you realize you can't believe anything they say when they are in MLC. One of my closest friends has a husband in full-blown MLC and I've given her all the info, the books, this site, etc.... and she just ignores me and does the exact opposite of what I tell her to do. It's so frustrating. I think her divorce will be final in January.
I don't think our Hs love these OW in these exit affairs, but I suspect just like other As they do develop some strong feelings. It may also be the feelings do build larger because they are leaving us at the same time and that's a painful void that they probably feel compelled to fill.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
