LOL!!!! I hear you on the patience thing.... but gosh it takes enormous patience just to get to piecing (so most of us should be pros at this!).
Actually, I dated my husband for a few years before we got married and it was a relatively slow building relationship (friendship with a hint of romance). Quite honestly one of the reasons I married him was because I considered him very steady and reliable. Also shy and sweet with a dry sense of humor. I never thought of him as a womanizing romancer. But he did grow up into an extremely handsome man....
The other thing I didn't realize when I married him, was that his father had affairs on his mother (not that this is a solid predictor of anything). Eventually, after the last kid was out of the house, his father left his wife for his secretary. They married awhile back and are somehow beating the statistics.
Oh well.... I'll just keep plugging away. At least I'm not alone.
Sometimes it does seem like it would be easier if we could just go fishing again, but unfortunately by the time fish get to be our age most of them have a lot of battle scars and are still raising older kids and teens (who have their own problems) and ultimately most people find they are merely changing one set of problems for another.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
