"Officially" piecing... now the real work begins..

[cat03]

Nope, I wouldn't say forget, you can't, you aren't God, but you can choose, as you said, to face it, forgive it and accept it as a dark chapter in your M, like a room in your house that you dont' go to anymore, it will always be there but with time you get better at ignoring it and yes, the sting does fade with time.

There is no "forgive and forget", we need to free ourselves from that constraint. The knowledge of what happened is in our minds, but we can come to terms w/it and remind ourselves that we've faced that monster already and that we've forgiven it, by grace, which is also a gift which can't be earned, we are doing what Jesus told us to do.

I was talking to H about how it made me hurt that I wasn't the only woman in his life anymore, and I think he's come to a part in his live that can now look at what happened for what it was, a crazed mistake because he said "it was just sex, a bit different than w/you but that's all it was, nothing more to it"
My fear has always been that he held that SL dear in his heart, he doesn't; at the time it might've been special to him, but now IT ISN"T anymore, it's in the past, it's dead. He finally did see that because I never had sex w/anyone else it was specially hurtful, I needed him to acknowledge that.

Now, some weight has been lifted off me, he isn't cherishing that part as I thought he was, he ML to ME now, I'm his present.