I know a lot of you say to forget things and move on... I do know that's important, but I also wonder if looking at things and going though the emotions is equally important, because stuffing things inside isn't always helpful, sometimes I think we need to look at things squarely and just deal with the pain of it. By looking at it, and experiencing the pain then we're able to finally say... okay, I've done this, felt crappy about it long enough, tired of it, time to move on....
By dealing with it, eventually the painful things really don't hurt as much. Kind of like cognitive behavioral therapy.... by expousure to upsetting and troublesome stimuli, one eventually becomes so used to it, it' no longer bothersome or troubling.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
