even when things were over between both of them, and we were quite together, he still would get angry with me those few times I bothered her

I can't agree more! I have not met nor talked to ow, but I think my H would really freaked out if I even mention that I want to call her and talk to her. H used to tell me that he's fed her more lies than he had to me. So, I guessed, he wanted her to still have a "good" thought about him?? I don't know...