ok, so you are not exactly attacking your H but you are still seeping poison into your M by keeping fresh and rehashing A related info.
It's on him (op's H) if he doesn't believe you, you truly are looking like a nut sending him info here and there, and each time you loose credibility and sinking lower. Leave them alone, both of them, does your H know you have those messages?, would he think this is healthy? won't he feel you still want to throw the A on his face?
I know it seems normal to you and it doesn't feel wrong while you are doing it, because you've rationalize it as: a)you are informing that poor man the woman is a slut b) she has it coming. In the process you are destroying yourself and turning into this vengeful woman who just wont' let go.
I go to the infidelity forum to keep myself in check, do yourself and your H a favor and get rid of ANYthing A related, to avoid temptation and because you are in a NEW and HEALTHY R.
...but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.
piecing after separation
