Thanks for sharing that, I am so sorry to hear about your sitch. I would probably warn my husband and apologize prior to having him find a message like that. I'd just admit that I completely freaked out.

After I finish this post I'm going to look up the ones you've mentioned. I think I need to spend some time on the infidelity board. Fortunately, I'm not ranting at my husband, but my problem is anger at OW and retaliating by sharing the details of their affair with her husband.

I'm really struggling with this. The other night I came acoss some text messages from around the time my husband filed for divorce. There was one from her where she said she missed him and called him by a different name. He responded back saying "so and so" missed her too. I immediately concluded this name must refer to a part of his anatomy and I went into PO mode, texted her that "so and so" missed his whore, and then called her husband's work number and left a message that he needs to ask his wife who "so and so" is and why she misses him.

Even thought I felt bad I probably didn't feel as bad as I should because I have this huge desire to call her husband and explain further. Even through I called him months back and said I thought they had an affair and I sent him the cell phone records. They both had explainations and lies to cover up the situation. (I think she also portrayed me as a nut and that bothers me... although this whole thing does tend to make one really nutty!). Part of me really wants to call and explain that they did absolutely have an affair, and it got physical (it wasn't just a support friendship thing, it was more).

I've been thinking about this and I wonder if I would be less angry with her if she had expressed embarassment or guilt and had apologized. When I did talk with her (which was quite awhile ago) she just denied everything and expressed anger at me for "bothering her." She also said her husband was REALLY MAD at me and he didn't want me to call them again. Although, honestly, he seemed really nice on the phone. I just shared with him what I knew as a fact and said I strongly believed they had an affair based on the evidence. He didn't seem angry when I spoke with him. I think she was probably freaked about it and just was trying to get me to stop.

Interesting about the anxiety disorders. I can relate to that with that. Well, time to spend to flip over to the infidelity board. I need a life raft.

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