"Officially" piecing... now the real work begins..

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Knowing that any future M would only have a 20% chance of success is pretty much a deal breaker for me. Knowing how many S's pull the same crap, it is extreemly hard for me to trust again. For it really doesn't matter what they say.

OK, so the statistics are against 2nd marriages...but to those who escape a M and come to a new one with the SAME baggage they had from the first, when they think the othes is the problem and are just looking for sometone else.

Let's say for a sec that I would've D w/my H. If I were to be married again--and while sep. I always thought I would if D-- I would've never put my 2nd H behind the household chores and kids, I wouldn't have talked down to him and treat him like a kid the way I did to my H, I would've made him my priority over my kids (something I learned w/difficulty). I believe I would've had a much better chance than 20% , because I now realized I can be a nag and a b*tch and the way I treated my H was no way to treat a man.

I hope that eventually you are able to trust again, of course is totally understandable you feel like you can never trust anyone again...but I hope it is not forever.