"Officially" piecing... now the real work begins..

[DonH]

"Have you learned nothing by allthis ordeal?"

I am assuming that by Ron you were just off a letter for Don. Have I learned nothing? Actually to the contrary, I may have learned too much. Just like because of my involvement with healthcare, having seen and treated thousands upon thousands of patients, I know too much. Sometimes just enough to be dangerous. However, what may not mean very much to many people, mean a whole heck of a lot to me when it comes to heart problems, breathing problems, trauma, etc. The same now goes for life. I now know that most of us here will not see our WAS return. I now know that what happened to us happens perhaps millions of times throughout the world. The syndrome of the WAS is not some long shot thing that just happened to us, it's something that is very common. I now know that 2nd M have a 65% chance of ending in D. I now know that 3rd M have a 80 to 85% of ending in D. I now know how many people pretty much lose their minds and break all of their promises to their S.

Oh sure, I have learned positive and productive things as well. I would not have learned these without the past 16 months. Still, just like if I ever get very sick or have a family member very sick, I now know too much. I can't do anything about illiness and death. We all will die some day. I don't have a choice to opt out. Knowing that any future M would only have a 20% chance of success is pretty much a deal breaker for me. Knowing how many S's pull the same crap, it is extreemly hard for me to trust again. For it really doesn't matter what they say. They can make all of the promises in the world. They can say anything. They can assure us their love for us is undieing and forever. The words are really not worth the air they flow through, now are they. Oh sure, many people never go through what all of us here have. However, prior to this, would anyone have even guessed how many do? I can assure you that had I known then what I know now, I don't think I would have ever married again. I am proud of what I have been able to accomplish. I am proud of the changes I have made and the efforts I have made. However, like in healthcare, a ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.