I'm now "officially" here. Last week my husband called his attorney to stop the divorce and I called mine. The court dates are cancelled. So over the weekend and through this week he has been slowly moving back in. He had to pay his last month's rent and has been spending most evenings with me and the kids, and even staying overnight sometimes. So far it's going very well. Very comfortable.
However, it's not easy to give up half that closet! I basically took it over these past 6 months. But it is nice to see some men's clothing in there again. I had always left one of his shirts in there waiting for him.
One more difficult thing, half that bed! I got kind spoiled being able to spread out, roll around and sleep in any position I wanted.... oh well...
I'm really looking forward to piecing and trying to get my family closer together, stronger and healthier.
One thing that's kind of weird is I do think my husband truly did go through MLC. I've read books on it, and it did seem like he went through those steps. I'd say it's been a good 3 years of MLC (that's when a lot of his general dissatisfaction with life and marriage began). It's kind of nice to see him calmer and appearing much more content... actually it's sort of surreal... but it's nice.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.