OK, Jen, I know how you feel. Not my thing at all either.
But I have to play devil's advocate a bit.
Suppose it's really important to H. Suppose it makes him feel young and "with it" and desirable, and he really wants to keep it. And suppose that by rejecting the ring, H feels that you are rejecting him - seems like you've made a very clear statement along those lines.
On the one hand, it is H's body, and he has the right to do what he wants to it. (On the other hand, I can't imagine why anyone would deliberately make themselves unattractive to their spouse!)
If it was hugely important to H that you learn to ignore (if not adore) the ring, could you do that for him? Or would this truly be the "deal breaker" that you are describing?
Like I said, I don't care for the idea either - but where does it really fit in the Grand Scheme of Things?
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