Wow!!!! Your positive posts are REALLY inspiring!!!! Honestly I have to admit I've been really tempted to "throw in the towel" this last week and call up the attorney to get things restarted, but reading positive posts like yours gives me some hope.

Another book you might want to check out is the "DNA of Relationships for Couples." http://www.amazon.com/Relationships-Couples-Smalley-Franchise-Products/dp/0842383220/ref=pd_sim_b_2/002-2795329-4519268

This is one I haven't seen mentioned on this site before, but it's definitely one more people should be aware of. It kind of goes into identifying problem patterns (destructive dances we get caught in) and creating healthy ones.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.