Jenny, Holly and Rob are right. In a R, stating what is and what is not acceptable is essential. You are not being unreasonable. But just state it as fact from your point of view. Let him consider. You are not setting “rules” you are just sharing your feelings.
Don’t say “do this or else” – that is controlling. Just say: “I feel drugs are not at all good and I cannot bring myself to respect someone who thinks drugs are okay. If you decide to do it, that is your decision – I cannot control that – but I feel that this is so important to me I wanted you to know how I feel.” Say no more – no lectures or anything. Walk away. He will get the message.
