Quote: I wonder how much success anyone can have until the spouse wants to try.
Well, there's no real success until both parties try. We try to influence the situation by changing ourselves (LBS). I have seen that my H recognizes my changes and his recent comments to me indicate that he might have some doubts about the D...but the bottom line is that it's over unless he decides otherwise. Right now, he's sort of in an EA with a married woman, so I know my chances aren't good right now. I'm just trying to let go. He needs this OW to be happy -- more than he needs/wants me. There's not a heck of a lot I can do about it and I certainly don't want him to come back to ME unless it's something he wants 100%.
