I was glancing at a male chauvinistic book last night, "the way of the superior man", and something came to me about walk-aways and people having affairs. The realization is that the LBS/non-cheater is still just thinking about themselves. Aren't we being self-absorbed in this? Selfish?
I kept thinking, "here is a person that wants to leave the relationship or is more fulfilled with someone else". We know it probably won't be in their best interest, but we aren't really even thinking about their best interest. We are thinking about our own. We want them back for ourselves. Does the LBS actually even think about the happiness of the person they love? If you love someone don't you want what makes them happy? Then if this OP is "all that" or if their perception that leaving the marriage will make them happy, then why stand in the way of that? Because we are smarter and know that it won't be in their best interest? I wonder how much success anyone can have until the spouse wants to try.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
