Quote: but do you think she'd believe the girl herself
No, when confronted with her accusations, I suggested that. I even called to have her talk to her. She just said, "Why would I believe her?"
Quote: So what would SHE now want YOU to do to show her that you are serious about HER, not anyone you were with then.
I've tried that. And I've indicated that I feel like I must be failing in how I'm showing her love if she feels insecure about my feelings for her. I've asked her to give me a roadmap back to trust. Hers is a blanket statement, "be honest with me." But she also seems to want me to admit to something that never happened. Seriously, sometimes it's gotten bad enough that I just want to admit to things I didn't do. I really can't get a feel for how to approach it other than give it time. The problem is that minor things bring it back up and it starts all over with the accusations. Then when I explain some minor thing, it comes across as I'm hiding something. This isn't just about me understanding her feelings. It's more that she's convinced that something went on and she's waiting to find out about it.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
