Member Blownaway Member # 3855 posted January 27, 2002 03:01 AM -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Wow Michele!!! How do you keep up with all this? You truely are a wonderful woman and I have much respect for you. I wonder if you could help me with this one? My thread is Cant do this Anymore on NC. Big problem now is business. I cant get out because H cant buy me out. The B is in dire straights. My H is determined to save it. I realise that we would lose everything we have if we sold or I forced settlement now so would like to also work it. Trouble is, I am finding it so hard to detach whilst working with him everyday, I am scared when OW returns from east she will come in office etc. The reason I wanted settlement was to be able to move on. My H said, "you are making everything so final!" This is just after he told me he wanted to explore R with OW and not work on our M! My thoughts are: 1. Work together to save business, perhaps in doing this H might realise that I am not so bad to have around and want to work on us one day. 2. Let him have his time with OW (not much else I can do anyway) and maybe he will see grass not as green. 3. If we are to work to save business that H does not allow OW to come near office. I couldnt stand that, it would kill me! How do I do this and DB effectively? H is coming around tomorrow to talk about our options with business and how we can do it. I fear he is going to ask me to not work there and trust it all to him, his track record doesnt give me much faith. It (business) is so part of us and our plans together am wondering if it is something worth holding on to and working together on? When I look at it, the people who have been telling me to just get out, are divorced people who have not managed successful relationships and who just think I am wasting my time. Am getting so much conflicting advice from family and friends, work associates etc. I am scared and battle weary, and all the other stuff. My brain just doesnt want to work properly atm. Thankyou Love BA
ooops sorry, posted this on the old new questions thread so have pasted it here! Blownaway
