I think you may have hit on something. He was really OK on the 26th -- helped me make our bed which he NEVER does. Also, was willing to go out to dinner on our anniversary and gave me a gift certificate (though it said Happy New Year).
When he did make the bed with me I was afraid to say anything, in case he turned against me.
I haven't felt safe enough to treat him lovingly -- was trying to be independent> Also I have to be real careful with compliments, as he gets mad if he feels patronized.
