Quote: Yes and no. I agree that standing up for yourself is good, but HOW you do that is very important. I tend to be defensive and while I am standing up for myself, I am also being abrasive, aggressive and overly emotional, all of which are big "turn-offs" for my W.
Agreed - showing that you need to tailor it to your own situation and leave out the abrasive stuff. See, my W was (and still is) great at the personal attack. What I am saying is that is the stuff to stand tall in the face of. I'd never attack for the sake of attacking - and when she did that to me during the medicine fiasco, I simply made clear I'm not to be treated that way - I didn't put it back on her. Respect and dignity we acheived.
But you're right on.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
