Quote: When this marital crisis started, of course I turned to reading everything I could, trying to LEARN what went wrong, what I did wrong, what could be done, etc. She knew that and frowned upon it. She has always been one to think that the right actions/words come via some mystical vehicle powered by passion and intimate knowledge of a person/subject, not because of some text book.
Absolutely the same as me. Without a doubt. That's why the statement was such a shock, it was said with sincerity. One of my biggest struggles has been learning to not be Mr. Fixit. A really tough battle for me. This is why I bit my tongue when she said it.
For months now I've avoided anything that could be construed as "Knowing how to fix it". Just did my thing and avoided trying to prove my point in any way or do anything at all that was anything other than just being loving. But truly for me (and many) this was fixing it, just not in the way I would have previously done it
Quote: The bottom line is that she IS seeing you be a different, better man through all this and that is what's important.
I believe that is true.
Quote: To me, it all leads back to that one thing, and that's that your consistent actions, and maybe one big leap of faith will be what changes her heart for good
Yes, just not sure what that leap is yet. We will see.
Quote: I think you are doing GREAT with this toughest of life's challenges. I was just in the company of a couple hundred masters, grand masters and doctors of Martial Arts and it's amazing how many of their stories are filled with struggle and most of all perseverance.
I've been through some challenges that I thought were extreme that's for sure, but this has been tougher. And speaking of challenges, one thing I've been working on lately is not "being my story", not getting locked down to those challenges we've had but to look at them merely as a transitory life experience which was there for the purpose of my learning. Nothing more.
In the presence of a lot of MA's huh. I'm interested. What kind of an event.
I had a very interesting MA related trip a few weeks back. Cool stuff.
Quote: because of who you've always been as a man
And this process has certainly brought that man out.
Quote: Believe in that as I am sure so many who look up to you do.
Fake it long enough and you become it. Yes you are right. Quite a revelation.
