I feel like I've been peeling an onion, Layer by layer. and I've got to the core. My core problem. Don't know what hers is and whatever it is it's for her to deal with, not me like I've been trying.
I said this before, long ago, but it is especially true for me now
The Four Noble Truths
1. In all marriage ther is suffering 2. Suffering is caused by desire. 3. Suffering may be eliminated by eliminating desire. 4. Desire is eliminated through the elimination of the ego.
This makes even more sense today. If I could just figure out number 4 a little better.