Well I read the DR book - a lot to take in there, but I'm getting there. I thought about my attitudes in the R prior separation, and thought I was perhaps too distant. So I've started being more available.
WAW told me two things, firstly that she was desperate to have another baby (I wasn't as she nearly died first time), and secondly that I manipulated our lives to my advantage all the time.
She still likes to go out to lunch with me alone, and spend time with D and I. Unyet she is full speed ahead in moving house (to a worse property by far) and unwilling to even look back. Her fear is that this will happen again in the future, by not having that future then it wont.
SO my question is - my approach has changed, she's happy with her situation with no change in her AT ALL. Just likes me being around, perhaps only for D. Any idea of how I can make short term goals when the WAS is so resilient and defensive?
