Oh dear Xue--did I get your panties in a rumple? Sorry darlin' I didn't mean it.
The T sounds horrid, really. In fact, it reminds me a lot of my own T sessions with H when all this started. It was NOT helpful at all and likely contribuited to the further demise of my mariage. I also stopped seeing therapy because it made me feel wose and hopeless.
Here's the thing though, why do you think it is not her? Obviously you know her well, but people change. She is not the same woman she used to be, no more than you are the same man and while I agree, that kind of zealotry is highly irksome, it is part of her transformation and will affect he future thought processes, regardless of whether she continues to maintain he rigid feminist ideas.
BTW, I totally concur with your interpretation of people stuck in the 70's--they need a cause, poor dears, don't they realize there are plenty of contemporay issues that need their attention?
Xue, you are into experimentation right? So, here's what I suggest...do the opposite! yep, you heard me..the old George Costanza. Stop arguing with her and start agreeing with her. In fact, when she tells you that Jane Fonda went and ruined her credibility by getting inplants, kick it up a notch by saying something like: "Yeah, before you know it she'll be selling Pamela Anderson's new hair gel."
Why don't you initiate some conversations while in the grocery store looking at the latest Cosmo cover-"can you believe the way the way society makes women feel they have to starve themselves to be accepted?"
Here's the theory, if you W is only trying these ideals on, like a hat, to see if she likes it or not, she will begin to see how unattractive that hat looks when it is worn by someone else.
It may seem insincere (well, it is!) but the idea is that you do not give her anything to defend against. That kind of zealotry needs an opposing wall to thrive on, so don't provide it with argument.
Sorry of this has tormented you Xue--I'm still placing my bets on your pony though baby--go get 'er!
