We still seem to be in a mixed signal situation. Saturday was great. Sunday was good. Monday and Tuesday everything seemed good but the physical part. So we're on a downturn here again although slight.
I think I might have this figured out though.
Friday I was off doing my thing. I was gone building the Haunted house. I was with a group of people she is not well connected with and in my position she knows that the women tend to hit on me quite a bit. When she called to see how I was doing I was in good spirits (she expected me to be frustrated) and I made no comments about coming home. She said a little inquisitively "Ok I guess I'll see you when I see you then" and I just said Ya.
The next day was when things got actually a little hot.
Now then Monday the feminist statements began. She makes these bra burning 70's feminist statements that I know are the ideals of the evil C. They are not my wife but somehow she's accepted those ideas as truth.
For example yesterday we saw a female friend with her very young daughter dresses up for a bride for Halloween. W says to me "Oh she's already training her". I ask for an explanation and I get "Well what would the mother be without being married". Now it is true that this particular womans biggest goals were to get married and have children. But W says this in a derogatory manner. Unfortunately I have not been quick enough on my toes with a come back. But I think that is going to change.
The other comment was about Jane Fonda and how she prized her feminist attitude and was a strong woman (albeit freaky and a traitor) but then blew it all by getting breast implants. I said "Huh?" how in the world does getting breast implants make a woman not a strong woman. The response was something about pandering to men and their wishes. I did speak up on this one. I said that one could percieve that as playing on a woman's strengths. That one doesn't have to have large breasts to be a strong woman but havng them certainly doesn't make her a weak one. (Was thinking of you BJ )
The discussion didn't go far, there was a definite difference of opinion there and it didn't seem to be up for discussion.
So I think that what happens is she starts to feel close to me (maybe a little concerned she's going to lose me) and she starts chasing me. Saturday she followed me around and complimented me all day. Constantly told me how smart I was and how the haunted house would have failed without my pulling it together. Then she runs up against this strong woman belief that is a corruption of her true beliefs. And we get a downturn. I then get "less strong" and we're in a negative spiral again.
It's subtle but I think it's there.
So this is my theory.
I'm trying to break it by staying strong when the pattern begins.
I'm not sure if this idea has to be broken apart or if me just DB'ing harder is the solution. I've considered an e-mail since the conversation always gets shut down.
But today we are both really tired so it's not the day for it. But soon.
I don't want to make my move when we're in the downturn but will definetely be ready for it when we swing back up.
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