Yes, were getting there. In my younger days (when I was shy) I used to be an outstanding listener. But I have had to re-learn it. Pretty good now and getting better.
There were years that her input was incredibly negative. My statement wouldn't hardly have left my mouth before she was shooting it down. But our situation was incredibly desparate also. I think some of what happened during those really tough years trained some bad habits into both of us and it has taken some time and effort to train them out.
We are both working hard to understand one another lately it seems. She often clarifies her statements lately. Trying not to dump things on me. Her dad said once (and I never realized the wisdom in it until recently) "You know the good thing about Xue, he can do anything. You know the bad thing about Xue, he can do anything". That causes conflict as to many people rely on me rather than figuring out how to do it themselves. It's been a problem but I kinda get the feeling my wife is starting to help solve that. Or maybe she has been all along.
