I know I spent too much time in my M doing as bj says and just laying down or throwing my arms up. Not good.
It doesn't mean that when WAW and I have a fight not that I look to demean or undercut her (although she still resorts to those tactics) - instead I hold my "upper" ground - even lean in a bit - strenght and honor.
Sometimes we find compromise, sometimes not but on some level we are communicating as strange as that might be for us martians.
And making up...that can be the best part....
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
