Well, I sent him an e-mail at work yesterday telling him what it is that I would like. Basically I said that a lot of time has passed in which I have been working on myself and things that I see I need to change. I hope he has has the opportunity to think about the wheels that have been set in motion.
I said:
quote: It’s time to stop reacting negatively, and to start acting positively. We started on a vicious cycle and it’s time we put on the brakes and take a good look at what we are doing to our lives. That is why I filed for Conciliation. This is where I stand right now:
I do not want a divorce I would like us to be friends again I would like to start over - stop looking at the past and start looking at the future I would like us to date each other again I would like us to give reconciliation a xx month try (3 mos, 4 mos?) If you still feel as strongly about divorce then as you do now, I will give you my full cooperation.
I am sure he feels that I am pushing him into concilliation and that's why he got the lawyer back. I wanted to try to smooth that over and the rest I took from letter's others have sent their spouses. I also told him that I am trying to give him his space. I sent this on Monday. Surprise, no response.
It's so hard not to get your hopes up. How do you make progress with someone who might as well have fallen off the face of the earth? He avoids anything to do with his "old life", including his own child and he is pushing the D through as fast as he can without thought. It is sooo frustrating!
