You are right about the comment about treating me like a criminal....I knew I shouldn't have said it. As far as his family pushing the D through, I am 100% certain. They have been trying to get rid of me for 12 years, tried to get my parents to talk me out of the wedding, tried to get between us many, many times. His sister prided herself on the fact that they had been "planning this for a year and a half" and that I was "too stupid to see it". My H knows they are manipulative, knows they hate me, and knows they lie, yet he let them take him over again.
As far as the D goes - when I tried to talk to him about what "he" filed, he knew nothing about what was actually in the petition. He signed the last page, his lawyer signed the rest on his behalf. His income wasn't right, my income, all kinds of info that HE KNOWS was wrong. He didn't even know that this was a no-fault divorce state AFTER he filed. I received a court date because a request was filed for "expedited" processing for the child support portion. Because I filed for conciliation court, that is the only portion of the divorce proceedings not frozen for 60 days.
If he were so interested in helping out with childcare costs, he would not have dumped me with all the bills. I know...I'm starting to sound bitter again, not positive.
I do not plan on bringing his so-called 'family' up to him anymore - that's his cross to bear. They will push him too far soon enough as they always do. His sister is working on milking him for every cent he has. I only want to get him thinking that nothing is unfixable. I know he still loves me, he just won't admit it to himself. He has even said that he may have filed but it can be stopped, so that does not sound like someone sure of his actions. I just fear that by going completely dark he will get the I told you so's and it will simply help him in forgetting that his life with us actually ever existed.
I don't know. I would really love Michele's opinion on this. As you said, my instincts are telling me that completly dark is not the way to go. I am giving him his space as asked, but I think cutting him off 100% is too extreme. I have decided that I will not send that e-mail today or this weekend - give him more time to notice the lack of communication.
Thank you for your wonderful advice. I have alot to think about!
