Yes, I read the book on controlled separation, and I took the separation agreement right out of that book. It seems logical when I read it, and I simply couldn't have my H in the house any longer given his attitude and behavior, and I couldn't convince him to leave without help from my attorney.
Although the agreement made me feel good at the time (at least we both filled in the blanks and agreed it would be for 2 months) the 2 months is up today and there has been no word from my H. He told me several weeks ago that he didn't want to talk about anything until after the agreement expired.
Don't use the agreement without a lot of thought going into it. I sincerely don't know if it has helped us or not. I know it didn't solve anything except giving us at timeframe. H broke everything he agreed to inthe agreement. I broke nothing I agreed to.
