JJ- Thanks for that really great story! I love it. It makes perfect sense to me. You know how I always use the see saw metaphor- "The more one person does of something, the less the other one will do." Well, you have been the fixer and she has been the fixee, as it were. So when you needed "help", it gave her the opportunity to step out of her fixee role and be positive and proactive. I'm so glad you thought of it. It probably boosted her self-esteem to be needed by you and for you to value her input. You're at it again, JJ, being the solution-oriented man i know you to be! Michele
